Trying something new in the bedroom shouldn’t feel like a science experiment. If you and your partner are curious about exploring sex toys together, the key is to start with options that feel playful, unintimidating, and designed for two.
We’ve rounded up the best beginner sex toys for couples — perfect for when you’re ready to explore, connect, and maybe giggle a little along the way.
Couples’ Vibrating Rings
Simple, stretchy, and designed for shared pleasure, vibrating cock rings offer external stimulation for the wearer’s partner while also increasing sensation for the wearer. They’re a great “gateway toy” — fun, easy to use, and not too “out there.”
Bullet Vibrators
These tiny powerhouses are great for clitoral stimulation during foreplay or penetration. They’re non-intimidating, discreet, and can be used on any body, anywhere. Pop one between you during sex or pass it back and forth while exploring each other.
Massage Wands (Small Size)
Want to turn up the intimacy without diving straight into sex? Mini wands are perfect for sensual massages and body teasing. They ease tension and encourage slower, more mindful touch — which often potentially leads to more connected, satisfying sex.
Remote-Controlled Toys
These add an element of play and power dynamic. One partner holds the controller, the other wears the toy — great for building anticipation or teasing each other over dinner (or across the room). Many are app-connected too, ideal for long-distance play.
Blindfold + Feather Teaser Set
Sometimes the best toy is the anticipation. A sensory play starter set invites you both to slow down, feel more, and tune into your bodies. Bonus: when vision is taken away, sensation often intensifies.
Final Tip: Go toy shopping together, or pick out a few options and let your partner choose. Making it a joint adventure helps reduce pressure and adds to the excitement.