On a recent job abroad, I found out I was allergic to prawns. Not the sexy reveal I was hoping for, but hear me out.
I was in Barcelona, completely exhausted and run down, when a mystery case of food poisoning hit me hard. I chalked it up to stress until it happened again. And again. Each time after eating prawns. Finally, the dots connected. My body had made its position clear: we are breaking up with shellfish.
But did I let go gracefully? Absolutely not. I tried eating around the prawns in special fried rice. Nope. A cheeky portion of prawn crackers? Still no. Licking one just to see where our relationship stood? A bold and disastrous move. Spoiler: licking things you’re allergic to = bad idea. But it did get me thinking…
That stubborn craving, the rebellious urge to test the limits, to taste just a little — it’s not just about food. It’s human nature. And it shows up in more places than the dinner plate — including our bedrooms.
Desire Doesn’t Disappear with Denial
In society, we’re often told what’s “normal” when it comes to sex and relationships. What we should want, how we should behave, who we should love, how often we should do it (and in what positions). The rest? Silently shelved under “taboo” or “not for you.”
But the truth is, just like my desperate attempts to flirt with forbidden prawns, desire doesn’t vanish just because someone says it’s off limits. Whether it’s fantasies you’ve never voiced, kinks you’ve felt ashamed of, or just wanting to feel sexy in a body that society tells you shouldn’t — that want is real. And it deserves your attention.
You’re Not “Too Much” for Wanting More
Here’s the kicker: most of us were raised in a culture of restriction. Restrictive beauty standards, gender roles, sexual expectations — all wrapped up in a bow of “polite society.” And when pleasure isn’t seen as a priority, especially for women or marginalised folks, those desires get buried. But buried doesn’t mean gone.
What happens when you keep denying what your body or soul wants? Frustration. Resentment. Shame. And sometimes, total disconnection from your pleasure. Sound familiar?
Reclaiming Your Right to Feel Good
Sexual wellness is about more than orgasms (though we’re big fans of those too). It’s about learning to listen to your body, not shame it. It’s about recognising that wanting something — even if it’s unconventional — isn’t something to suppress, but something to explore safely, consensually, and with curiosity.
It might be trying a new toy, setting a new boundary, exploring fantasies with a partner, or simply having the courage to ask yourself, “What do I really want?”
So What’s the Takeaway?
Desire doesn’t disappear just because it’s inconvenient. It gets clever. It adapts. It finds a way to make you lick a prawn even though you absolutely should not.
So what’s that thing you’ve been denying yourself? And what might happen if, instead of pretending it doesn’t exist, you gave it a second look — with compassion, curiosity, and a little courage?
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