Let’s be honest: even the most sexually confident among us can feel a little awkward bringing up sex toys with a partner. You don’t want to offend, overwhelm, or kill the vibe — but you also don’t want to keep quiet about something that could bring you both a whole lot of pleasure.
If you’re wondering how to introduce sex toys in a relationship without things getting weird, you’re not alone. And the good news? It doesn’t have to be awkward at all.
Here’s how to bring it up, keep it sexy, and maybe even make it your new favourite thing together.
1. Make It a Conversation, Not a Confession
First things first: you’re not confessing to something taboo or strange — you’re expressing a healthy curiosity about your own pleasure and your shared sex life. Try bringing it up when you’re already having a connected moment, not mid-sex or mid-argument.
Something like:
“Hey, I’ve been reading about how couples are using toys to connect and have more fun — would you ever be into trying something like that with me?”
It’s open, it’s casual, and it invites them into the idea with you, rather than springing it at them.
2. Start Light, Stay Curious
You don’t need to leap straight to the deluxe, dual-ended, remote-controlled rabbit blaster (unless you’re both into that). Ease in with something playful and beginner-friendly — maybe a bullet vibrator, a couples’ ring, or a massage toy.
Frame it as something to explore together, not a solution to a “problem.”
Curiosity is sexy. Performance anxiety? Not so much.
3. Use the Language of Pleasure, Not Inadequacy
One of the biggest reasons people get defensive about toys is that they interpret them as a sign they’re not “enough.” That’s not what this is about. You’re not replacing your partner — you’re enhancing your connection.
Try:
“I love what we have already — I just think it could be even more fun with a little extra spark.”
This is about more, not better.
4. Shop Together (Yes, It Can Be Hot)
Turning the experience into a shared activity helps ease tension and makes it feel like a joint adventure. Browse online shops together, read reviews, or make a cheeky date night out of it.
And if you’re already in the business (like we are)? Curate a selection of starter toys they can explore without pressure — think soft silicone, body-safe materials, and non-intimidating designs.
Bonus: shopping together can turn into foreplay.
5. Laugh If It’s Funny
Let’s be real: sex toys can buzz, squirt, wriggle, and surprise you. If something unexpected happens, laugh together. The awkwardness only lingers if you let it.
Intimacy deepens when you can be silly, real, and open without shame.
6. Debrief Afterward
After your first shared experience, check in. What did they like? What would you try differently? What did you enjoy? These conversations build trust and set the stage for future play — with or without toys.
Final Thoughts
Learning how to introduce sex toys in a relationship isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being brave, curious, and honest. Whether it leads to a new shared favourite or just a good laugh and a cuddle, the act of trying something new together is a win in itself.
And if you’re looking for beginner-friendly, beautifully designed toys to get you started — well, you’re already in the right place. 💋